Return To Honor

We live in a time where everything seems upside down and backwards. Having just elected a U.S. President by the largest margin of popularity in recent history with slogans of positive change and “Yes, we can,” we naively assumed that significant change would be forthcoming any day now.
A lot of things have changed, all right, but not many of them appear to have been all that positive…at least not for middle-class Americans. Not being particularly political in nature, I was nonetheless hopeful that something positive would come from the millions contributed to, raised and spent on both campaigns, and I have suffered through like everyone else the billions spent on bailouts, executive bonuses and comprehensive healthcare reform that doesn’t seem to amount to anything truly beneficial for the majority of us. What sort of “positive change” has taken place so far, and how long do we wait for the pieces to fit together so that the simplest real changes might come? Is it so hard, really?
Despite some ridiculously simple solutions that have been offered by mathematicians and economists who seem to have a lot of common sense, still things keep getting more complicated and elusive, and we appear to have yet another “runaway” government out of touch with reality and with us…their true employers. Once again we find ourselves on yet another roller coaster ride, over which it feels like we have no control.
But we do have control. We just don’t realize it because we don’t understand the sheer simplicity of how control works. It’s not about opinion polls, elections or chains of command. It’s about setting higher standards for ourselves that can give us each a firm foundation in our own lives first, then by example and demonstration greater and greater impact and influence on those we deal with every day. Gradually, those standards can become immutable and non-negotiable, such that it becomes clear who does and who does not embrace those standards.
The standards I’m talking about are not philosophical, esoteric or theological. They are the core principles and values that made this country, and some past civilizations, great. Among them are moral values such as telling the truth, courage, honesty, respecting others and valuing one’s own self. There are others, but if we can get even a few of those down, we can change our lives, and influence others to change theirs. Ultimately, that will change the world, and bring sensibility and sanity back.
I know that seems a bit altruistic and far-fetched, but it’s true. We just lost touch with the common and simple values we all know in our hearts are right and true, no matter what philosophy or religion one embraces. We may not be able to change radical terrorists, but we can gradually change the people we deal with every day, and in turn they can impact more of their contacts until eventually people are treating one another respectfully. It can happen…and yes, we can…make a difference in the world, one person at a time.

Don Kirchner
Sedona, AZ

These are either the “best of times” or the “worst of times,” as Charles Dickens wrote in his Tale of Two Cities, depending upon how you choose to look at them…”choose” being the operative word. It’s all a matter of choice, really, even if you’re broke and facing a foreclosure, in how you deal with that dilemma. What will ultimately come of it depends entirely on how you choose to handle it.

If you have a bad attitude about what’s going on these days, you’re going to have some pretty bad times ahead…even if the economy should happen to turn around and real estate values go back up again. Your health and sense of well-being also will likely be affected negatively, and the worse you feel about any of that, the worse it will get.

If, on the other hand, you look for something good and decent in everything that happens…even the “bad” things…they will improve. Pollyanna was right…and now is the ideal opportunity to put her philosophy to the test. I have, and I can assure you that I’m well-qualified by now to tell you that it’s true.

A man I know fairly well runs a series of very large entrepreneurial training forums, and at one point he portrays in a very convincing way the nature of what he refers to as “fearstorms.” He uses film clips from “Jurassic Park” and a couple other very convincing movies to demonstrate how even the most seemingly menacing situations are just mental and emotional anticipation of things not always real. We make them real by fearing and resisting them. That’s not to say that what’s going on the world right now isn’t real, but rather it emphasizes the importance of taking charge of our lives and finding better, more effective ways of dealing with both real and imagined threats to our well-being.

WE get to choose how we feel about it…and our history books, movies, books and many personal stories of overcoming adversity in the world confirm over and over that we can not only get through difficult times, we can grow stronger in the process.

Find ways to feel better, love more, laugh a bit and trust yourself to make it through any challenge, and to do so with courage, honesty and integrity, and no matter what the difficulty may be that you face, you can and will get through it. Hate it, twist around it, deny it or manipulate people to help you get around it, and times will get harder for you. Accept it, deal with it, be honest about it and find ways to be kind and loving with those around you, and the best of times will surely be upon you…no matter what dark clouds may be out there.

They’re only fearstorms.

Don Kirchner
http://ReturnToHonor